So I know I’m starting this blog off with a copy and paste completely ripped off another site, but I thought this was too insightful not to share, and present in an easier to read format. I do believe that a lot of people today are making uneducated and inexperienced decisions about what might probably be the most important aspect of their adult lives, their life mates. We’ve heard a thousand different pieces of advice and nuggets of wisdom, and to a certain degree I guess they’re all useful in their own way. I like this one though, for the mix of common sense and belief in chemistry, of which I am an avid subscriber to. Not necessarily love at first sight, but I do believe it takes a certain amount of chemistry for a relationship to work, grow, and endure. It’s quite long, but then, what’s a 10 minute read when you’re putting the rest of your life on the line. Right?

So here it is:

Introduction

Rabbi Dov Heller, a licensed psychotherapist with a private practice in Los Angeles and the Director of the Relationship Institute, is also available for telephone counselling worldwide. For more information he can be contacted via e-mail at dheller2@netzero.net. In the following presentation Rabbi Heller will enumerate ten ways to marry the wrong person, based on conclusions drawn from his counselling experience, and will guide us on how to avoid these common mistakes.

The Ten Ways to Marry the Wrong Person

Hi. I’m Dov Heller. It’s a pleasure to be able to present to you the ten reasons why people marry the wrong person. My goal in presenting this to you is to help you become a little bit smarter in your dating. Now that’s not to imply that I think you’re dumb. But the truth is… certainly my experience is that people who are dating and who are serious about getting married, often approach dating in the wrong way. One fundamental mistake which I see that people make is, they don’t ask enough questions, or they ask the wrong questions. In this presentation I hope to give you what I think are the right questions to ask and I’ll give you some principles along the way that I think are essential for effective dating, especially for those who are interested in marriage.

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